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I feel bad... - Happy's Obsession
or what I do between bouts of Real Life
I feel bad...
One of my co-workers (junior staff, really), just came to me today all excited. 

"Dr G, when my youngest starts kindergarten in August, I get to retire!"

She is 25 years old, has a 7 year old and a 5 year old from a previous high school recently-absent-parent boyfriend, and just married a chiropractor she has dated for a year.  He is 43, works part time at one office, and is opening another.  He has a side job as a personal trainer, so he looks great physically.  He also has 3 kids (none of whom live with him), and is more than happy with his trophy wife.  I mean, who wouldn't be?  She is a very buxom, small woman who looks a lot like Teri Hatcher (but younger).  And she is amenable to pretty much anything, in every regard.  No statement, request, action will rock her.  She'll just laugh, or respond positively, no matter what the situation.  She can also be "tough mommy" firm when patients require it.  This easy-going even nature has made her a good employee.

Am I a bad person because I want to scream, "Shut the hell up!  You married money, none of us have that, and this *happiness* feels a lot like rubbing our noses in it!"

Not to mention that she is a little out of touch with reality, because her husband, while making good $$ now, has a genetic condition that "killed his father in his early 50's, and B has it, too," but when he "went behind her back to get chemotherapy" - "it's not bothering him now, but he wanted to keep it from becoming a problem' - she made him stop, because "she couldn't deal" with him when it made him sick.  "I told him he will live to 98, and then when I die of a broken heart at 80, I'll be old." 

She is going to quit the job pool, and then be a mid-thirties to early-forties woman, no job for 10-15 years, trying to support her family.  Although she *says* he has life insurance... but he also "bought her a nice car (Audi S4)" after their third date, but "she needed the van for the kids, so he'd drive it."  And she has evidenced many "pie-in-the-ski" ideas before, with no basis in financial reality...

I really like her.  I guess I *should* feel bad for getting upset at her joy in quitting working regularly...

I guess I should pity her for what is coming.  According to what I read, he will be unlikely to live another 10 years. 
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qafaddiction From: qafaddiction Date: March 25th, 2010 03:18 am (UTC) (Link)
she made him stop, because "she couldn't deal" with him when it made him sick.

Um... wow. That's pretty selfish, if that's the only reason.

I don't blame you for getting upset at her joy. I'd probably feel the same way!
shadownyc From: shadownyc Date: March 25th, 2010 11:21 am (UTC) (Link)
While I hope she lives out her happily ever after, I have a feeling she'll have trouble in the future. Hopefully her entire life won't be wrapped around her husband's and she'll have friends to turn to.
connorblond From: connorblond Date: March 25th, 2010 04:29 pm (UTC) (Link)
Really, all you can do is feel sorry for her. Seems apart from marrying money, God didn't do a very good job when he chose brain for her.
amelialourdes From: amelialourdes Date: March 25th, 2010 09:31 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'd be bitter. There's a lot of just plain stupid up there though. :|
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